Abraham Twerski - When Do the Good Things Start?
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Many loners are people who crave companionship, but feel that they are unlikeable. They feel that if they were to seek company, they would be rejected. They therefore avoid relationships. If they do enter into a relationship, they are so certain they will be rejected that they create a situation to precipitate rejection. The torment of anticipating rejection can be worse than the rejection itself.
Not everyone is going to like you, but unless you consider yourself utterly unlikeable, after fifty percent of people should like you. In a world with a population of three billion, that gives you one one-half billion potential friends, and that's quite adequate. But if you think badly about yourself, then you may become convinced that not even one out of three billion will like you. If some people do seem to like you, you convince yourself that their feeling is certain to change as soon as they discover "the truth" about you. |
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- When Do the Good Things Start?
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